How to fix the vibe

Ever entered a room where you could just FEEL the energy was off? The tension? The negativity? An overall bad vibe? I bet you have, right?!

As empaths or highly sensitives we are so sensitive to energy, that we immediately notice it when there’s a bad vibe. Kind of like animals do, since they operate on a more energetic level. It is even said that your pet dog or cat can actually see energy and dimensions. Whenever the tension rises in a room, our pets notice this too and get irritated or want to flee the scene. Whenever you’re a highly sensitive person (or an empath, as we say) you have the same abilities to feel the energy rise, or drop to an ultimate low.

Before I fully realised this about myself, I would find it particularly interesting that I could always tell someone’s mood, simply by entering the room that some person would be in. I could immediately tell if it was a good day to ask for something from this person. Or if something extremely bad was about to happen. Or even if it would be better for me to just fully ignore a certain person, because the energy would feel so off. Do you recognise yourself in this too?

How to get rid of negative energy?

Whenever there’s some bad juju going on, whether that’s in your own home, inside yourself or with someone else, there’s a few simple tricks to get rid of the negative vibe. You can do this in your entire home, or a specific room. You can cleanse yourself, a plant, furniture, your partner or kids. You can even cleanse things that you bought second-hand. All to raise the vibration and clear away any unwanted energy. You could even (carefully) do this when staying in a hotel or Airbnb; all to make sure the vibe is good and clean.

What can I use to cleanse my house and myself?

Sage:
Particularly famous for removing negative energy from anything it gets in contact with. By burning sage, you’ll create a thick smoke which can be used for cleansing. And be warned! There’s going to be lots and lots of smoke. Better yet: to properly cleanse something or (an area of) your house, you actually need a lot of smoke. It is in this smoke that the negativity will be dissolved. Research has even shown that burning sage removes 94% of bacteria in the air. Insane, right?!

Cleansing with sage is especially good for cleansing a space, such as a room or even an entire house. Make sure to fill the room up with as much smoke as you can, to properly cleanse it. While burning the smudge stick, you can repeat a little “spell” that invokes your intention of cleansing the space. When you’re done, leave the space as it is (for an hour or so) with the doors and windows closed. It’s best to leave your house and be outside during this time, because of the smoke and intense smell. When you return, open up all windows and doors and let it all out. The fresh air that comes in, helps to cleanse it even more.

A little warning from my side:
Cleansing with sage works really well, but it gives a really intense smell. My first try, I decided to smudge only a few hours before Raymond came home from work. I honestly thought that he wouldn’t even notice it, as long as I would make sure to allow for plenty of fresh air to come in afterwards. The smell of burning sage was a intense, like EXTREMELY intense. I couldn’t stand the smell, neither could Raymond. For us, it’s just too much. With that said: you don’t know what it’s like for you, if you don’t give it a try.

Palo Santo:
My personal favourite! I simply love the smell of this holy wood and it instantly lifts my mood. Palo santo can be bought in actual wood sticks or as incense. For centuries, this wood has been used by shamans worldwide. In fact the maya’s and the inca’s even used it during their rituals. Palo santo is excellent to heal and to smooth the vibes. However, the tree that this wood comes from (Bursera Graveolens) is an endangered species, therefore Palo Santo isn’t the cheapest cleansing material. 

Good to know: Palo Santo doesn’t burn easily and it also doesn’t create lots of smoke. If you want lots of smoke in an instant, use sage. However, Palo Santo is more of a friendly cleanser. A softer, more loving one. You simply light a Palo Santo stick with fire. A bit of smoke comes off of it, which you use to cleanse the energy and then it’s out already. I use Palo Santo for cleansing myself by lighting the wood stick multiple times. When I’m finished and the stick is still burning after that, I simply let it fill the room with the smell until it stops.

Juniper:
The Juniper tree and its berries are known for the amazing woody or spicy smell that comes off it. For many years now, juniper has been a go-to natural detoxifying agent. It has the ability to cleanse and purify the air, and even to keep germs at bay (it was used for this single purpose in hospital wards in France). Most often, you’ll find yourself using essential oils made of the needles and berries from Juniper trees.

You can use the oils in a diffuser to cleanse the room or yourself, as it contains many natural compounds that can purify the air and make it cleaner to breathe. Its compounds also have a relaxing effect on the brain and can promote feelings of peace. So also perfect for use in a diffuser when you have trouble falling asleep. You can even mix Juniper essential oil together with a carrier oil and use to treat skin irritation and imperfections. Such a versatile and amazing herb!

Lavender:
Perhaps the most accessible and well-known herb of this day and age, Lavender is a multipurpose herb. From using dried flower solely because of its fragrant smell, to using Lavender essential oils for health benefits such as relaxation, for treating anxiety and depression and even fungal infections.

The soothing and calming scent of lavender is one of the most effective to reduce stress and anxiety. Meaning that this scent is perfect for use in a diffuser in order to fix a bad vibe in your house or within yourself. In addition to using the oils in a diffuser, you can also apply a few drops behind your ears for quick and easy relaxation. Since lavender essential oil is a multipurpose oil, you can also use it to relieve headaches, improve sleep and reduce insomnia, improve brain function, pain relief, reduce respiratory issues and to treat skin conditions. Wow!

Meditation:
What if your external world – the world that you see outside of yourself – is actually a reflection of what’s going on within yourself? Perhaps you find that there’s quite some chaos in your “external world”. Why not look within and see what’s going on there? Could it be that there’s some inner chaos going on too? Perhaps you are feeling all sorts of negative vibes, which is then reflected back to you by what you see externally.

Meditation is such an easy and accessible tool to gain back inner peace. Even if you can only do this for 5 minutes per day! That’s 5 more minutes than nothing at all. Meditation is the tool to empower yourself, to gain control of what’s happening inside of you and thereby clear the bad vibe, both internally and externally.

Being in nature:
Ahhh, being in nature is such an important tool for every living being, humans included. I’m sure you’ve heard of grounding or earthing as being important, especially for those who are sensitive to energies or those doing lots of spiritual work. But there’s more to it. Being in nature helps you clear your head, it forces you to be in the present moment, and allows you to reconnect with a part within ourselves that we tend to forget during our everyday life’s. We need nature, we need to spend time in nature.

Our dear Mother Earth transmutes a very specific energetic frequency, namely the Schumann Resonance. It’s baseline lies around 7.83Hz, which also just happens to be a frequency that our brain can function at. In fact: that is the exact brain wave at which we operate in light meditation. So that’s why being in nature feels so relaxing and invigorating at the same time. It is like a meditation, the only difference is that you’re now outside in the fresh air while being active. Perfect to clear the vibe!

Amethyst:
Amethyst is a powerful and protective stone that is also one of the most popular crystals worldwide. It guards against psychic attacks, transmuting the energy into love and protecting the wearer from all types of harm. I clearly remember Amethyst being the first crystal I ever owned as a young girl. The moment I saw this purple crystal, I instantly fell in love with its color and cool shapes. And now that our oldest son, Jiro, used to suffer badly from night terrors, I gave him an amethyst for protection during the night.

Amethyst is a natural tranquilliser as it relieves stress, soothes irritability, balances mood swings, dispels anger, fear and anxiety. It opens and clears the third-eye and crown chakras, which accelerates the development of intuition and psychic abilities. It helps to identify root causes behind behaviours and emotional patterns and encourages us to take responsibility for our reality. What it basically comes down to, is this: amethyst dissolves negativity and activates spiritual growth. Such a musthave crystal for everyone! 

Rose quartz:
The rose quartz crystal is the quintessential stone of love, for others and yourself. It is calming for the mind and assists in releasing worry, fear and past emotional trauma. Rose quartz allows us to be more open to receiving and sharing love, compassion and kindness. It provides physical stability and strength to the heart. It has been used since 600BC as a love token due to its ability to promote unconditional love.

When you take a closer look at emotions, you can typically divide all emotions into 2 categories. Fear or love. The rose quartz crystal helps you raise the frequency within yourself and wherever you are expanding more into a love-state, instead of a fear-state. So the ideal crystal for fixing bad vibes!

Black tourmaline:
This gorgeous black crystal called Black Tourmaline has the ability to transmute and purify negative energy, protecting ones energy field against attachments, entities, and energetic debris. It is grounding and supportive, assisting one to overcome chronic stress or worry. Black Tourmaline crystal is a powerful stone for protection against negative energy of all kinds, including psychic protection and EMF protection (so perfect to place near computers). It is also a strong spiritual grounding stone. Also known as Schorl, it encourages optimistic attitudes as well as good luck and happiness, regardless of the circumstances that you find yourself in.

The amazing thing about this stone, is that it does not absorb negativity. It changes or alters it, transmutes it, into positive energy. We have a gorgeous black tourmaline crystal in our hallway, facing the front entrance door. Since we have lots of people from our neighbourhood come into our hall to pick up their DHL packages, I felt the need to add a bit more protection to our home. Black tourmaline is just perfect to protect your family and yourself against all kinds of negative energy that wants to find its way into your home.

Tektite:
Tektites are glass objects associated with meteoric impacts.  It’s not yet know whether tektites are real meteorites, terrestrial rocks melted by meteorite impact, or some fusion of terrestrial and extraterrestrial material. But these dark green, black or even grey crystals of 14 million years old have amazing healing properties. I personally wear one all the time, together with a piece of moldavite (perhaps one of the most life transforming crystals ever, but more on that another time). 

Tektites are ideal meditative tools and help you raise your vibrational level into the highest frequencies. Tektites have an empowering effect and can help to increase synchronicity and connections. The energy of Tektite is very strong and can be felt by those that possess the ability of clairsentience and those sensitive to the energies of crystals. It disables powers of black magic, spells, darkness and all what can influence in a negative way. Thanks to the amount of light inside tektite, it is able to transmute negative energy and re-establish order and balance. However, not everyone can wear Tektite. With Tektite your intentions and actions can only be good and positive. If not, you will most definitely feel the need to no longer wear the tektite or keep it by your side. This high vibration crystal is gentle, yet powerful. Tektite is able to increase energy and is known to strengthen the aura, raise one’s vibrations and clear energy blockage within the lower Chakras.

Placing a Tektite inside, or underneath, a pillowcase can deter negative entities. It is also said that this stone helps connect personal thoughts and energies with extraterrestrials from other planets and spirit guides. Whenever I meditate and lay the tektite on my 3rd eye, I find it so much easier to connect with spirit and my power animals. In addition to that, tektites have the amazing ability to ‘throw off’ energetic debris, leading to a more positive and happy vibe.

Exercise:
One thing I always tell clients, friends and family, is that exercise is essential to feel good. For me, fitness was the first serious step to get rid of the depression. Just moving my body, working out and getting stronger day by day. Focusing on 1 thing at a time – my workout routine – forced me to get out of my head and into my body. Perhaps you are just becoming aware of this, but most of the time you are caught up in your head. Listening to the self-talk, overthinking everything and worrying about whatever you can. Being physically active means that you are forced to focus on what you are doing physically, meaning that there isn’t much space left for all the thinking.

In addition to that, exercise gets the energy inside your body moving. Your lifeforce or Qi (Chi) energy needs to move constantly in order for you to feel good. Whenever it gets stagnated, it will lead to dis-ease of whatever form. Can be tight muscles, headaches, stomachache or even more serious illnesses. Energy wants to move. It needs to move. And exercise is an excellent way to do so. The moment that you reach a good synergy of feel-good hormones (dopamine, endorphins and serotonin) blood pressure and breathing, you get into the so called “flow”. Everything just feels easy, effortless, pain-free and simply joyous. This is also known as a “runner’s high” and is an amazing state to be in. In this zone there’s no negative energy anymore, only good vibes!

Energy work:
There’s lots of different ways you can cleanse the energy with the use of gorgeous natural products or experiences. But the one thing I haven’t yet discussed is energy work. And I have left it for the very last, since there’s so much to say about it. We all have psychic abilities. We are born with it. We are born with an inner knowing of how to deal with certain energies. We all know how to transmute negative energy into positive energy. However, most of us have simply forgotten this. During your spiritual awakening or ascension you will come to understand (or rediscover) just how powerful you really are. All you have to do, is become aware of the intuitive guidance that always leads you to more positivity in your life. Allow for it to come through, listen to the inner whispers and trust that it is exactly what you need in that very moment.

You inner light is so much stronger than any kind of darkness or negative energy. Choose to shine your light – brighter than you’re currently doing – and it will automatically start to change the energetic frequency in the room. You change the vibe. Your energy changes the vibe. And if you feel like any of the above mentioned natural products help you by lifting your mood, then obviously it will work. It’s like a placebo-effect. You believe something works, so it will work. Simple as that. But in essence YOU are the on who can change it all, because you are that powerful.

One cool technique that I personally use a lot, is Smile Meditation. Just go into a meditation and allow yourself to smile. No matter if you feel like smiling or as if you feel like there’s absolutely no reason to smile at all. Just smile. Keep up that smile whilst remaining in a meditative state of mind and feel how it quickly changes your mood.

Something to think of…

We have been programmed with this idea that cleansing yourself, your energy, or even the energy of something like your house or second-hand furniture, can only be done with the use of certain cleansing agents. Say hello to White Sage, Palo Santo and certain crystals such as mentioned above. The moment you start reading about topics as “how to spiritually cleanse my home” or “how to spiritually protect myself”, is also the moment that others start teaching you about the use of certain products that should be good for you.

But what if…

What if the mind truly is more powerful than you can currently comprehend? And what if you could actually use the well-known placebo effect in such a manner?

The placebo effect is an amazing thing; one that shows to prove just how powerful the human mind really is. If you believe for certain medicines to work for you, they will. No matter if it is just the placebo version that you’re using. As long as you fully believe it to be true, then so it is.

With that in mind, I would like you to think of the things that make you feel good. For some of might indeed be the smell of Palo Santo. I know I’m one of those people; I just love the smell and it instantly gives me a boost of positivity, happiness and inner peace. For others it might be music that makes them feel amazing and on top of the world. And for others, it might even be just staring outside their window and gazing at the birds in the garden.

Lifting your vibration, changing the mood, transmitting energy. It’s not all that black and white as people often think it is. Perhaps you truly despise fragrant scents such as lavender, or perhaps you feel nothing at all when looking at a “rock” (aka a crystal, as others might call it). Do you then honestly think that a list as mentioned above, is just it? As if only these items can be used for “fixing the vibe”? Of course not! It’s all about what feels good to you and using that to raise the vibe.

So… If you wholeheartedly believe for something as freshly cut grass to have cleansing properties, then why wouldn’t it?! If it makes you feel good, then it’s already helping you raise the vibe.

  1. You feel good because of the smell.
  2. Your energetic frequency rises because you feel good.
  3. Your outer experiences – the way you perceive the world – change with it.
  4. Now you have “fixed the vibe”.

In the end, it is your intention that matters combined with how something makes you feel. Your belief system is what matters, because your beliefs create your reality.