{"id":13079,"date":"2025-02-04T11:59:26","date_gmt":"2025-02-04T10:59:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/larissadenenting.com\/?p=13079"},"modified":"2025-02-04T12:01:14","modified_gmt":"2025-02-04T11:01:14","slug":"ive-made-every-mistake-in-the-book-about-healing-from-self-sabotage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/larissadenenting.com\/nl\/2025\/02\/04\/ive-made-every-mistake-in-the-book-about-healing-from-self-sabotage\/","title":{"rendered":"I’ve Made EVERY Mistake in the Book About Healing From Self-Sabotage"},"content":{"rendered":"

Here\u2019s What I Wish I Knew Sooner<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try, you keep falling into the same patterns?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know that feeling all too well. Healing can be messy, frustrating, and full of self-sabotage\u2014sometimes without us even realizing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For years, I thought healing was about just trying harder<\/em> en doing more<\/em>. But the truth? I was making mistakes that kept me stuck. And if you\u2019ve been struggling to move forward, you might be making them too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, let\u2019s talk about 5 of the biggest mistakes that keep people stuck in self-sabotage\u2014and what to do instead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mistake #1: Waiting for Motivation to Magically Appear<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I used to think, \u201cI\u2019ll start when I feel ready.\u201d<\/em> But the problem? That feeling never came.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Waiting for motivation is one of the biggest traps in healing and personal growth. The truth is, motivation follows action, not the other way around. If you sit around waiting to feel<\/em> like making a change, you\u2019ll stay stuck in the same patterns forever. You can sit around and wait, while be perfectly comfortable where you’re at. Or face the fact that healing and growth also requires the discomfort of stepping out of your comfort zone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\ud83d\udd39 What to do instead:<\/strong>
Start before<\/em> you feel ready. Even the smallest step creates momentum. Action fuels motivation, not the other way around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mistake #2: Trying to Heal Alone<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I thought that if I just read enough self-help books, listened to enough podcasts, and journaled every single thought, I could heal myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Healing doesn\u2019t happen in isolation. We\u2019re wired for connection, and having the right support is life-changing. Whether it\u2019s therapy, a trauma-informed coach, or even a trusted friend who truly sees<\/em> you, healing is so much more powerful when you don\u2019t have to do it alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\ud83d\udd39 What to do instead:<\/strong>
Reach out. Find a support system that understands trauma and self-sabotage. Healing isn\u2019t about being \u2018strong enough\u2019 to do it alone\u2014it\u2019s about allowing yourself to receive the support you need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mistake #3: Beating Myself Up for Falling Back Into Old Patterns<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Have you ever caught yourself saying:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u274c \u201cWhy do I keep doing this?!\u201d<\/em>
\u274c \u201cI should know better by now.\u201d<\/em>
\u274c \u201cI\u2019m never going to change.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I used to shame myself every time I fell back into self-sabotaging behaviors. But here\u2019s the thing\u2014self-sabotage isn\u2019t about being lazy or undisciplined. It\u2019s your brain trying to keep you safe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your nervous system clings to what\u2019s familiar, even when it hurts you. That\u2019s why it\u2019s so easy to fall into old habits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\ud83d\udd39 What to do instead:<\/strong>
Instead of blaming yourself, get curious. Ask yourself:<\/p>\n\n\n\n